Visakan Veerasamy @visakanv 2021-12-11
hm, this is kinda tangential but it just clicked for me that I have more class/status anxiety in my home country than almost anywhere else. like i’m nervous about stepping into a glitzy hotel in singapore bc i feel like i’d get chased out. anywhere else in the world? non-issue https://x.com/sashachapin/st/sashachapin/status/1469360785570729988…
Visakan Veerasamy @visakanv 2021-12-11
i remember walking around the streets of sf feeling like the king of the world. random women would compliment me on my clothes and jewelry, which I think permanently levelled up my self-esteem, an effect which persisted even when I got back home
Visakan Veerasamy @visakanv 2021-12-11
I think Miles Davis described something similar as a black American man in France. not to imply that our experiences are directly similar. but I think the generalizable thing is: a significant amount of your self-image, etc might be part of a feedback loop with your environment
Visakan Veerasamy @visakanv 2021-12-11
a suggestion that I give guys who ask me for dating advice is to go travelling somewhere in the world that would make you an exotic foreigner, and casually flirt with women there (at bars or whatever). people are intrinsically curious about foreigners! and…
Visakan Veerasamy @visakanv 2021-12-11
the experience of “wow, people are interested in me!” is something that you can carry with you even after you return to your boring ol’ hometown. it’s a lil hero’s journey: you leave your comfort zone and discover a new dimension of yourself
2020-01-08
“What if you slept
And what if
In your sleep
You dreamed
And what if
In your dream
You went to heaven
And there plucked a strange and beautiful flower
And what if
When you awoke
You had that flower in you hand
Ah, what then?”
- Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Visakan Veerasamy @visakanv 2021-04-26
oh, and I wear a lot more jewelry now, which solves the hotel anxiety. I clearly look like some kind of main character everywhere I go now, nobody questions this. &I don’t think I’d have had the guts to do it until I travelled first. so it’s proof-of-work
2021-04-26
saw a tweet that’s like (I paraphrase) “straight guys used to get to be more fashionably fancy but not anymore”
you can actually wear bold colours, jewelry and makeup etc at any time, and you’ll get loads of compliments and attention from women for it
Visakan Veerasamy @visakanv 2021-12-11
man i can’t wait to get my neck tattoo it’s gonna level up the whole bad motherfucker vibe
Tui McFarland 𓅻 @Ayosheicity 2021-12-11
I was thinking about this just today, main-character-camouflage. Or, trying to be philosophical about my desire for insane winter coats.