QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
crying is a process adults rarely let themselves *complete*; the complete process feels like too much to ask for, it is loud, it makes you look insane or like a child or both, other people get scared and donât know how to handle it. but it is totally normal and immensely healing
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
âAfter being hurt, an infant will cry loudly and continuously and, if permitted to do so, will seem to recover from the hurt very quickly.â
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
âApparently babies - given a chance - would keep themselves free from hurts simply by their natural discharge of painful emotion. In our culture, no baby gets very much of a chance because⌠the discharge of her painful emotion is interfered with and shut off so repeatedlyâŚâ
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
âThe profound process of discharge of which tears are the outward indication is the getting over of grief. Tears indicate freeing oneâs self from grief. Crying never occurs unless a person needs to do it.â
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
the clearest indicator i know that you have *completed* the process of crying about something is that the same thing that was causing you unimaginable pain while the crying was happening is now something you can laugh about
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
if there are old pains you need to cry out (*loudly* and *continuously*) and youâve been prevented from doing so you can walk around for years or decades being tortured by your own emotions. it is exactly like being constipated for that length of time
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
existence may come to seem fundamentally tortuous, reality may come to seem inherently metaphysically bad, you may construct elaborate philosophies of suffering, when the actual thing that was happening the entire time is that you needed to poop out of your mouth and eyes
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
several times while engaging in my own crying practice i have thought âthis is the central heartbreak of my entire life, it was tinging my entire existence up until this moment with the deepest possible sufferingâ and afterwards thought âhuh. okay. now whatâ
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
if anyone is curious to learn more, the stuff i do is a variation of @DougTatarynâs NEDERA process / bio-emotive framework which i learned at a life-changing retreat in 2019. i donât know where iâd be without this stuff. website:
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-17
ah and i forgot to link to the page i was actually quoting, itâs this page on co-counseling
https://rc.org/publication/books/fm/fm\_2b\_hjâŚ
QC @QiaochuYuan 2023-04-18
the bio-emotive team is offering an online training! if you often feel emotionally âstuckâ and like you could use a good cry, i canât recommend this stuff or the tataryns as facilitators highly enough
2023-04-17
Thanks for the shout out QC.
If anyone wants to get some experiential training in our methods Ali (my daughter) is offering a 6 week online training (starting this week).
https://mailchi.mp/bioemotiveframework/bioemotive101âŚ
It includes lifetime access to our newest version of the Self-Paced Course on
Eileen Jubilee @jujubileen 2023-04-17
wow, this is remarkably similar to the practice Iâm involved with that stipulates there are 4 base feelings: anger, sadness, fear, joy - when blocked you glitch out, emotional energetic constipation, but when allowed to flow are expressions of information and energy.